When I was a child, I was a child who was attached to a blanket. When I was sleeping, I always liked to hold a blanket. Before I thought that my mother’s love was not enough when I was a child, I didn’t have enough hugs to make me form an attachment to the blanket.
After my daughter was born, I tried my best to satisfy her mother's love. The grandparents and fathers of the family also rushed to hug her, but my daughter still showed a blanket on her three-month-old. Attachment, now three years old, she can't sleep without her blanket. If it is not the impact of the environment, is this also caused by heredity?
The rhesus monkey experiment by American psychologist Harlow is also called "the experiment of love." He kept the little monkeys in cages, gave them a mother of iron with a bottle, and a mother with a blanket without a bottle. I found that after drinking milk, the monkeys always rely on the blanket mother who has no milk. The reason that we often say that "there is milk is the mother" is completely defeated by this experiment. I have thought about it for a long time. This experiment really follows Is love related? The monkeys are holding blankets and humans holding blankets. Do you feel love? No, not love, it is a sense of security. The parcel of the blanket is the most similar feeling when wrapped in amniotic fluid in the mother's womb.
One psychologist said that people have tried to return to their mother's womb throughout their lives. Mother's womb is so warm, comfortable and safe. In contrast, the stimuli that children come into contact with, the intense and changing light, the noisy sound, the mixed smell, the ubiquitous touch, bring huge to the child. Stress, these stresses can lead to fear and cause insecurity.
From the uterus that left my mother, the sense of insecurity was deeply in our hearts. These insecurities, as people are born and grown up, are not gone, but evolved.
A psychological teacher once said in class that she really can't figure out why an adult would be attached to a blanket, a doll, etc., as if an adult should be completely independent, without any attachment.
In fact, attachment always exists, but its expression is different. Some people are attached to blankets, some are attached to quilts, some are attached to the bed, some are attached to lover's hugs, some are attached to pets, some are attached to the comfort of life, the material is abundant, some people are attached to food. , cigarettes and fine wine. These attachments comfort our soul to a certain extent, giving us a sense of security, at least giving us a temporary sense of security.
So, who can still blame a child for attachment to a blanket? Ask yourself, how much more can you feel safer than a child?